Reflections by Shiqin@TheDailyEnlightenment.com
Sypnosis from www.turnleftturnright.com : Life is full of surprises, might two parellel
lines one day meet? John and Eve live in the same apartment building,
separated by just one thin wall. She always turns left, he always
turns right. Living
in wistful solitude, they both believe the day will come when they'll
find true love... They long for that one magical moment... They
pass each other countless times. One day, they finally meet... But
life is full of surprises. A "chance" encounter leads to another
separation... "Fate"... How much longer will they have to wait before
finding each other again? [This movie was adapted
from the book "A Chance of Sunshine" by Jimmy Liao, which was
inspired by the poem "Love at First Sight" by Wislawa Szymborska,
translated by Walter Whipple: http://www.mission.net/poland/warsaw/literature/poems/lovesigh.htm]
Do You Meet
the People You Do by Chance?
When I first read the picture book which inspired the
movie, about a year ago, I laughed at it. Despite being a girl,
it felt like an overly romantic lovey-dovey fairy-tale idea, even though it
was credible. It was a happily ever after tale of two people seemingly
destined for each other, who continually let chances of meeting
slip by unwittingly. It was a tale of love not found, love found, love
lost and love refound.
Ironically, months later, I met my significant other in a similar
way. The "joke" was on me for real. He lives in the west
and I live in the east. It's our version of "left and right." The
movie guy and girl lived only next "door", and I had lived in the
block next to him for more than 10 years, with windows almost facing
each other directly, before moving to the other side of the country.
We had definitely passed each other by, time and again, so close,
yet so far away. We even went to the same school. Even our mothers
knew each other! What's more? We could list common interest after
common interest- it felt absolutely magical. I never had such a strong
sense of "meant to be" and "made for each other" in my life- we had
been unconsciously missing each other all our lives! The
movie characters were separated for 13 years, and we were "separate"
for more than 20 years. The movie characters exchanged phone
numbers on scraps of papers, each having 4 digits smudged by
the rain, leaving them a cruel lottery of trying to dial
the right number among 10,000 possibilities. They had one chance in
10,000 to find each other... Recently, we did an online personality
test- and the results revealed that he was a "rare" one
statistically- 1 in 10,000! Some karmic "coincidence" indeed.
Am I glad this "joke" happened? I have to thank
karma it did. It is incredible how karma
works in seeking people out, just as water from the mountain top surely
seeks the sea. Life is full of surprises indeed, pleasant ones and painful
ones. But how we choose to intepret them determines how we experience
them. Are you braced for
all kinds of surprises?
A line from the movie poem reads, "They'd be greatly astonished
to learn that for a long time, chance had been playing with them."
But no, chance does not play with us. We karmically deserve what
we experience- even if we keep passing by those we later
fall in love with. Do we meet the
people we do by chance? No, there is a cause for everything. Even
the results of rolling dice are not left to random chance. It all
depends on conditioning factors, such as how and where they
were thrown. Nothing is left to chance at all. Everyone
who strikes the lottery deserves it. They must have planted
the seed of generosity in this or a previous life, to deserve the
fruit of abundance. Likewise, the truly loving will be loved truly.
Before we lament our "bad luck" for our lack of love, before
we take the precious people in our life for granted, let us remember
that though we deserve we we have, they can change, for better or
worse. Are you squandering your good karmic blessings? What
new seeds should you sow?
"Beautiful is such a certainty, but uncertainty is more beautiful." was
uttered in the poem. It was referring to so-called "chance" meetings and
departures. Yes, a romantic idea indeed... the uncertainty of love, but isn't it
suffering (Dukkha)? Uncertainty is Anicca (truth of constant change of mind
and matter) and Anatta (truth of no enduring personality due to Anicca). In
wanting to experience only the beautiful, we suffer, as we crave and cling
to what we do not have, and refuse to let go what we have clung to,
forgetting that everything and everyone changes. How
then do we love people who change? How do we hold on without holding on too
tightly? By accepting change, by making sure our love itself changes, for the
better, that it sets those we love free- not by abandoning them when in need,
but by helping them to grow spiritually, by letting them go too, if they
Do You Miss Someone Missing?
When someone, who you don't know well, who
you can't contact, is running "late",
do you think he is not coming or
that he is coming any moment now?
This is like asking whether the glass is
half full or half empty?
There is probably nothing you can do,
move on when you have to move on,
if s/he still does not arrive.
s/he will turn up somewhere sometime later,
if you still wish to
Who is this person you are waiting for?
S/he is the invisible love you pine for.
Maybe you have
already met her/him, maybe not.
You are not sure if there is a karmic appointment to
You are not sure if you are "destined" to.
I have a friend
whose heart is somewhat empty, incomplete, somewhat broken,
because she has
not met the love of her life yet.
Sometimes its a quiet yearning,
sometimes it tears her apart.
It is as if a phantom lover is haunting her,
Is this phantom lover real?
Or is the haunting only as
real as she makes it?
Do you miss someone who is not here,
who might not be out there?
Do you forget to look around
forget that being loving to others is perfect love already, not just wanting
Do you forget that love is a choice too,
not just waiting for
someone to appears of the blue to sweep you off your feet?
forget that love really starts from you, not out
Do you forget that
love comes in many forms and embraces many forms?
Do you forget
that true love opens up to embrace the world, not just someone who is not here
Is There Someone Out There For
Is there definitely someone out there for us?
Maybe yes, maybe not.
But the world is definitely out there for you to love.
someone who will love you unconditionally?
Maybe yes, maybe not.
But the world is definitely out there for you to love
unconditionally.The more truly loving you
are to the world,
the more the world finds you truly
Who Do You
Do you miss the missing and miss what is before
Do you wish to live a lifetime of torment, of missing missing
people?The people we miss now are not here
The people we miss will be here, sooner or later,
if we deserve to
meet them- so don't worry.
Just "worry" about whether you are doing something
that continually makes you undeserving of meeting them.
about doing the right thing
to deserve meeting
Who do you miss?
miss the person you used to love?
Does THAT person exists
Is There Love At First
Sight?"Both are convinced that a sudden surge of
emotion bound them together"...
"Every beginning is but a continuation, and
the book of events is never more than half open."
-Wislawa Szymborska (Love at First Sight) First
& last lines
Is there such thing as love at first
How can you love who you do not really know?
How do you know you do not
already "know" him or her?
Maybe you already know each other in a previous
Is it a good or bad thing?
Will we deepen our attachment in this
life, and further bind each other in this life?
Will we relinquish our
attachment in this life, and help each other be free?
It is very
much up to us, isn't it?
Love has never been an
obstacle on the spiritual path,
if it becomes more and more true,
embraces more and more,
if it gives more and more,
if it wants less and